Most of us are experiencing great transformation as we navigate our lives during this paradigm shift happening on Earth. Every life area is impacted, including relationships. Many clients and friends have recently contacted me for information about what is going on in this arena, which is why I’m inspired to write about this topic for April’s newsletter. I’ve experienced many of the relationship nuances described throughout it!
Right now we are in the time of Venus Retrograde until the 15th of April. This is a time when we review and evaluate our relationships, deciding on the worth and value of those we are currently in, and considering the potential of those we haven’t begun. Although many might feel pulled to take action or make major life adjustments we are advised to wait until after the 15th when all has been reflected upon and processed.
Most of us are no longer operating predominantly in a 3D manner when it comes to relationships and sex. As we step more fully into 5D, we move from codependence to co-creation. We express mainly from a place of unconditional love and less from neediness or desire. For many of us, we are being asked to let go of who and what no longer resonates or fits, particularly when the energies or issues with certain others have been stagnant for too long. This is emphasized as well, when despite our best efforts no shifts have been made.
In this evolutionary time period especially, many are finding that in any kind of relationship–with a friend, lover, partner, or family member, there might come a time when separation or even a definite ending needs to happen. This does not mean you’ve failed or given up, or that the relationship wasn’t strong enough or the real deal. In many cases, it’s quite the contrary. Sometimes the highest spiritual partnerships need space and time for one or both people to heal a particular issue or expand in a certain way. Then they can come back together again when or if it’s right, and move forward into a deeper purpose and passion.
What does this mean for happily ever after? Does it even still exist in current times? I believe it does. But I do think that with most friendships and romantic partnerships it can be challenging if both people aren’t willing to do their inner work. Continuing to change and grow promotes long-lasting, spiritually-evolved relationships.
There is also a shift that is becoming more common in romantic partnerships and friendships these days. Many people in healthy, comfortable, and satisfying relationships are being pulled to new spiritual partners and friends, in order to fully participate in higher level potentials. These can involve soul mates; those who are part of our oversoul or another oversoul, or twin flames, the female or male counterpart of our individual soul. (For more info. on oversouls, read my previous blog post here). With soul mate and twin flame relationships, the purpose of coming together is to ignite mutual soul growth while bringing service to the world in a form the couple chooses. Twin flames, through the power that is emanated in their merging and wholeness, specifically help expedite the ascension process on earth.
Many people are confused at first as to why they are drawn to these new lovers or friends. We might not be easily impressed. Often soul mates and twin flames come in packages we don’t expect. Sometimes our higher level potentials are just beginning their awakening and will need a great deal of time/space and support during their transformational process. We might need to develop more courage, trust and patience, and be able to hang in there during periods of the unknown. Like any relationship, there is never any guarantee that the relationship will progress in a certain way or be long-lasting. This is where we learn to let go of attachment to outcomes, loving unconditionally.
What is most essential is your awareness. No matter what circumstance you might find yourself in above, if any of them apply to you, follow your intuition. Follow the pull even if it doesn’t make logical sense at first. You’ll know it’s likely a higher level partnership–soul mate or twin flame, if you feel expanded or activated in the other’s presence. You’ll experience a level of joy and connection like never before…And then, with all the love and excitement, the unhealed issues come up for release. This is where the willingness to do the inner work comes in.
Due to the depth and power of these relationships, it is difficult for many people to go back to stagnant partnerships and aspects of their lives. Of course, we always have our free will to choose. We might have our reasons for not choosing our higher level partners as well, especially when abusive or destructive behaviors are present. In these cases, time, space, and unconditional love can offer the support needed to help them shift in the short or long term, opening up the potential for you to be together if you desire to, later on.
In going forward and saying yes to our destinies, whether that be in continuing, ending or separating, and/or starting new relationships, we are becoming more whole, more expanded, more connected to ourselves and our divine essence. This leads to rewards in many forms, not just in relationships. It offers us the ability to experience a sense of empowerment, strength, trust, love, joy and fulfillment that has never been possible. We are able to do this because we have deepened the most important relationship of all–the one we have with ourselves.
Until the next bend of the journey,
Heather and the Guides
For those interested in extra energetic support, guidance, healing, and information during this time of the shift, join me in my upcoming tele-class with colleagues Wanda Vitale and Theresa Luttenegger, on Saturday April 22nd from 10am -12pm PST Details here
Here’s a sneak peak from my next book titled, “For the Love of Horses Workbook:
This section explains the process of healing for our individual souls and for those that make up our oversoul, which many of us are feeling at this point in our evolution. For greatest ease in understanding, this process is described from a linear perspective, but keep in mind that in reality it is nonlinear. If any of the concepts that follow are difficult to grasp, connect to your heart center, and feel into the meaning intuitively instead of logically.
We are all whole, vast, powerful beings, part of a greater soul collective. Like petals on a flower, our individual soul is connected to other soul members or mates in this collective. To further clarify this verbal illustration, the center of the flower could be called the oversoul. The flower as a whole represents the oversoul energy. Our oversoul and others are linked, which make up even larger soul families and collectives.At some point during our soul’s existence our individual soul broke off from our oversoul and incarnated into physical form, in this linear timeline, so that we could experience the illusion of being separate. We did this to learn specific lessons, have certain experiences, and gain spiritual mastery as directed by our oversoul.
The oversoul records and integrates every lifetime and the life events of each soul member. A good metaphor to clarify this concept is to view the oversoul as a radio station and each member of the soul cluster as a particular song. As individuals, we only know our own song, but the oversoul has access to all the varieties at once.
Since we’ve begun incarnating, over thousands, even millions of times on earth and in other physical and nonphysical planets, worlds, and realities, both as individuals and collectives, we have experienced opposite ends of the spectrum in all of our existences—good and bad, pain and pleasure, joy and despair, abundance and scarcity, and all that exists in between. In the process of living through trauma or overwhelming circumstances, we became fragmented.
At this time of the shift, many individual souls long for their own healing and wholeness. We long to return to the soup of our oversoul energy and ultimately, Source. We desire the peace and harmony of this oneness.
Our individual soul’s healing process unfolds as we become aware of and experience the suppressed or repressed memories, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors from this life and all of our other lives. It also involves mastery of the lessons associated with them. As we heal, denser vibrations are transmuted or lift out of our energy fields. Soul pieces and fragments that we have lost through trauma come back to us. Our being fills up with more divine light and unconditional love. We then make our way back to being bigger beings again.
But it is important to understand that while we are on this journey, we will continue to recreate situations that bring up the old memories, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors, to a greater or lesser degree, depending on our level of spiritual understanding. This will persist until all of these vibrations are released and our individual souls have become whole through fully experiencing and therefore integrating these life happenings. This is what it takes to heal many lifetimes and many layers of wounding and trauma.
As our individual souls become more whole, we then become aware of the healing process for other soul members. This is already happening for many on earth right now. We are remembering and experiencing the traumas of many of those beings who are part of our oversoul. Because of this, we might dream about lifetimes that these souls have lived. At that time, or even while awake, we can access many of those soul’s memories, beliefs, thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and even physical sensations related to particular life experiences and traumas.
When this happens in a dream or vision, the experiences might feel or look like they are happening to you. They might remind you of something from your past or you might think they are from another one of your lifetimes. Sometimes when the memories, emotions, or visceral sensations are experienced, you might even think they are related to something in your current life.
For example, some people will blame health issues or pain on emotional or physical causes, like stress or an injury, when in truth, it is related to a trauma from another life or another member of our oversoul’s life. You, or that other soul aspect might have been shot in the area of pain, or had another illness, injury, or traumatic experience that affected the area of the body where you now have the health issue.
A common issue being worked through for many in an oversoul is power, where certain members play out the victim role, and others are the perpetrator, sometimes even in the same lifetime. An example of this is the Holocaust. During this tragedy in human history, one soul aspect could have been a Jewish person in a concentration camp, while another was a Nazi guard. In this case, you might have memories of living out both experiences, as victim and perpetrator. But these seemingly opposite energies are really two sides of the same coin when it comes to learning about empowerment. The karma of each side is balanced by the other.
It takes a great deal of intuitive experience to understand what’s really going on in these situations. The good news is, you don’t have to know whether it was you or another soul that experienced the trauma because the souls that are part of your oversoul make up your oversoul energy, which is the bigger you. Address these particular issues as you would your own individual healing, and you will be helping these soul aspects heal as well.
From the big picture (linear) standpoint, as we deepen the process of healing and transformation for our individual soul and the members of our oversoul, our consciousness continually expands. We evolve into even higher dimensional beings. This enlightenment continues through all of our existences, until we merge fully once again into our oversoul’s energy, eventually making our way back to Source—the ultimate divine energy—the all that is.
A Note on Ascension:
At this time on planet earth there is a great shift in consciousness happening for all livings beings and the planet herself. Ascension is our becoming fifth dimensional beings; the length of time in this process is unknown. For us individually, ascension is the soul merging fully with the higher self. We get there by healing, transforming, and becoming whole as described in the section above. Currently, collective humanity’s soul consciousness resides in the fourth dimension. This is a dimension where we can experience the dense, physical aspects of the third dimensional existence and the lighter, ethereal experiences of the fifth dimension, as our physical bodies transform from carbon-based to crystalline. The animal and nature kingdom are also shifting along with us, as their consciousness is becoming more humanoid and their bodies are also changing to crystalline.
It is during the process of ascension, in the height of our own individual soul’s healing and wholeness that we also become conscious of our oversoul energy and the healing happening for members of our oversoul. We feel and remember our connection to Source, knowing we have truly never been cut off from it. Becoming fifth dimensional beings involves the beauty and full awareness of being separate and united at the same time. We get to shine our spiritual and divine selves through a transforming vessel while interacting with what appears to be a physical world. It’s the grace and magic of bringing our own unique heavenly qualities onto this earth and experiencing a whole new way of life because of it!